When texting was introduced to our society, everyone thought our lives would be easier. Little did these optimists know that we would have to deal with texting teenage boys. As if boys don’t make life hard enough for us by just simply being boys, texting them is like a game and there is no winning. It really shouldn’t be that hard to have a text conversation with a hot guy, but it is. It really, really, really is.
See, the problem is this: It’s not that we teenage girls are making things complicated, it’s that boys are impossible to please! Think about it. If we don’t text them first, they’ll think we’re uninterested. If we DO text them first, we’ll seem desperate! So what do we do? Let’s weigh the options.
Why you should text first: Everybody knows that boys don’t really pick up what we put down. You could tattoo “I think you’re super duper cute” to your forehead for him and he still won’t think you’re interested. So you have to tell him. If he doesn’t text you first, maybe he’s busy! Or maybe he doesn’t have his phone. So don’t freak out and pull an “Oops I texted you (Alex) instead of my friend Alexa, but what’s up?” Be cool, girl. If you want to text him and show him you’re into him, text him! But do it at a time where he won’t be busy, and don’t send 6 of the same text if he doesn’t respond (that’s just flat out weird).
Why you should wait: It’s cliches, but if he wants to talk to you, he’ll text you. As hard as it is to wait to talk to him, love is painful, yes, but patient. Patience is a virtue that will eventually help you later on in your life, with guys especially. You’ll feel 10x better when he texts you because you know he’s wondering, “I wonder why this super amazing STA girl I have been talking to hasn’t texted me today, she must be really busy because she’s so pretty and popular. I hope she has time to talk to little ol’ me!” It’s like you’re playing hard to get, but not really, even though you kind of are. The thing to do here is not actually play hard to get (because boys ACTUALLY take that as uninterested), but BE interested! Be charismatic and flirty, but let him text you first. You should be a texting priority.
The best piece of advice I’ve ever gotten about texting a guy is to not overdo anything. Guys appreciate it when girls are the first to text, but do you really need to text him every hour of every day? No. Do you need to play the “Somebody stole my phone and texted you ‘Hey cutie OMG ’” card? No. But do you need to be aloof and mysterious by waiting for him to text you? Absolutely not. Have you ever thought about maybe texting him one day and he texts you the next? If he’s always texting you first, you should definitely text him first for once. Or if you are the only outgoing one of the two of you, give yourself some leeway and time to do what you need to do (school, work, friends, etc)- you don’t HAVE to text him right at 3:00, you don’t even need to text him at all! Give him a chance to text YOU first.
Okay, well, obviously you feel like you need to talk to him, you go to a school full of girls, you don’t get the, um, pleasure of seeing and talking to him during school. Every boy is different, and even if you take my advice, you’ll never win. But, maybe with my nuggets of wisdom you’ll begin to find a solution to our problem. All I can do is give you a few tips on how to seem undeniably awesome to your boy of choice, even though you should already seem totally amazing and pretty and cool and funny because you go to STA. We have that effect on boys. Bottom line is that boys should always text first, it’s easier that way- anything to make our lives easier, right?